You might be wondering why the topic sounds so crazy; but yes. It’s true. This is not a Hyperbole. I’m not overreacting! We all have that one friend who’s a total jerk; but we always end up forgiving them anyway. Well, that’s the case.

I have this friend who’s an absolute jerk. He insults and belittles me all the time. Thinking he’s better than me. He calls me stupid, or an idiot, and says I’m pathetic. And when I react, it’s like I get angry all the time. Then he ends up apologising and I make the mistake of actually forgiving him because I throw shade too whenever he decides to insult me. And sometimes he says it’s a joke but it’s really annoying and I get pissed off easily.

But, he went too far this time. We had another dumb fight over something irrelevant and after throwing shade; which he started, he was like “….you might as well kill yourself before I do”. To be honest, I’m a bit surprised and shocked because for someone to tell me to kill myself, that’s just too much! That word is something I can’t accept because of what I’ve had to deal with in the past. Not only is it horrible, it’s also hurtful. I don’t think I can forgive anyone for telling me to kill myself. Like, don’t I matter? I’m a human being for God’s sake! This is the worse thing anyone has ever said to me; and I’ve been told a lot of horrible things in the past before. Now, everything I’ve tried to forget is coming back. This just isn’t right. No one has to be told something like that.




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  1. Whoa! I don’t want to come across and being “judgy” towards your friend, but he doesn’t sound like he is being a very good friend. Nobody’s perfect and we all make mistakes. Forgiveness definitely does have its place in relationships, but I think that respect is a necessity. Our friends should respect us, uplift us, and inspire us to become our very best.
    I agree with you. I think he went far in saying that to you. I hope you know that none of that is true EVER. <3

  2. This is so horrible! You shouldn’t accept things like that, because even if it was in the heat of the moment, it’s not the sort of words you expect to hear from anyone, ever. You are a fantastic person and I don’t understand why you get so much stigma <3 We're here for you! 🙂

  3. Wow! That’s pretty tense! Being a past victim of verbal abuse myself, I must recommend that you do forgive your friend BUT no longer keep him as a friend. I know too well what it’s like to hear some really degrading and hurtful things from someone you love (Referencing my father) and there will be times when you have to say “no, I still love you, but I love myself more”! Words do hurt and do have “life”. And if you hear the negatives long enough, you’ll start to believe it or attach them to your back. Life is too short and has too much purpose for us to continue to settle for the less than purposeful things/ppl. I do hope that you feel better about this entire situation. You have great talent and purpose and sometimes people can’t handle that, so they try to tear you down because secretly they wish they were YOU. Stay encouraged! Xx

  4. That’s not a friend. I’ve had people in my past tell me this and they’re no longer a part of my life. How can people expect you to respect your self and your well being if your friends do not. Try to surround yourself with people who think highly of you no matter the situation

  5. Thank you for sharing, and I’m sorry you’re going through this. I agree with the other posts. I am 10 years free of people speaking this crap over my life and it feels amazing! Use the voice you have to be LIFE!

  6. Life is too short to have these so-called friends. It’s better to have positive people around you.I really hope this person is nothing but words.

  7. Please don’t talk to him anymore.. why would anyone say that to someone.. life is a gift from God to be happy.. and that’s not a friend .. friends don’t talk like that.. you are precious..

  8. There are some things you simply don’t ever joke about… Seems like one of those friends who doesn’t know that lines can be crossed, or maybe just doesn’t care. Not a good friend to have around in that case.

  9. There is one thing about we humans, sometimes we don’t value people who care about us until when we are away from that person,then, we will realise how important the person is to us. That friend of yours doesn’t care about you anymore, that word shows that you doesn’t matter in the persons life anymore, what what you need to do is to simply give the person a little gap, and then watch from the distance, or still cut the friendship off and move on with your life. That’s my opinion….

  10. I am sorry that you have to deal with such harshness. You are definitely worth life and anyone that says otherwise, even if they don’t mean it, should not have a permanent place in your life. May you be blessed with peace and love.

  11. This is the deepest thing I’ve ever heard someone say about a “friend”. I dont know how long he’s been a friend to you but you dont need that kind of negativity in your life. Stay blessed Queen.

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